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Should I Divorce My Wife Because of Her Daughter’s Wedding?
Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been married for 16 years now. When I met my wife, she was having a daughter which wasn’t a problem with me because I was deeply in love with her.
After we got married, she didn’t bring her daughter along. I asked her why and she said we’re newly married and she didn’t want her to be a distraction.
The following year, I asked her to let her daughter come so she could stay with us. After all, we live in a mansion and I could take good care of her; she agreed.
I’ve been raising my stepdaughter for 15 years now. Helped her with school, bought her a car when she graduated. I’ve been there every step of the way.
Next week Saturday is her wedding; she is 27 years old. We’ve planned this for a long time. Her husband-to-be is capable but I still gave them money to make the ceremony grand. My stepdaughter came to show her man to me but her mother said since I wasn’t her biological father, she would collect the dowry for her daughter and I said okay. But I’m now finding out that she rather allowed the biological father (her ex-boyfriend) to receive the dowry.
As if that’s not enough, my daughter, last night, came to tell me that she doesn’t want me to be the one to walk her into her man’s arms on the wedding day.
I found out her mother told her that her biological father should do it instead of I. She added that that’s the right thing to do, stressing it would make her husband-to-be’s family respect her.
I know she said all the things she said because her mother told her to say them. The mom gave her those reasons. Although the daughter I raised is smart, she wouldn’t think like that; her mother pumped all these thoughts into her head.
A girl I saw through school because her biological father failed to do so. He abandoned them. When I met my wife, she had nothing but I gave her love, comfort and support. Today, she drives different cars whenever she is stepping out of our mansion.
Her daughter drives her own car as well and working with a reputable firm because I recommended her. I did all these things out of love.
I loved this girl like mine; I never for once thought she wasn’t my child. It’s time for her to get married and her mother goes all the way to look for her ex-boyfriend (biological father) to come and walk her down the aisle?
For what? To see that they’ve made it with my money? This is interesting!
I called my wife this morning to address the issue and she insists it’s the right thing to do, that the child has a “father” and that she won’t treat the daughter like she doesn’t have a father.
This is my payback for all I’ve done for them out of love. I’ve told them I will no longer attend the wedding. Also, after the daughter is married, her mother leaves my house. She doesn’t even have a child for me. She just came to help me take care of the two I had with my late wife.
My biological daughter is 22 years old and studying abroad. I’ll get the opportunity to walk her down the aisle when she is at the ripe age for marriage.
Will I be wrong to divorce my wife because of this behavior? Please I need your advice.
FG/AME
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