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Dealing with Extended Family Living Arrangements

Living with extended family members can be both a blessing and a challenge. For one Ghanaian man, the situation has become increasingly difficult as his mother-in-law has extended her stay in their home beyond the agreed-upon time.

When his wife’s mother first came to stay with them after the birth of their second child, it was agreed that she would only stay for three months. However, ten months later, she shows no sign of leaving, much to the frustration of her son-in-law.

One of the main issues he faces is the daily allowance he has to provide for his mother-in-law. Initially giving her GH₵50 per day, he has tried to reduce the amount as time went on. However, she insists on receiving the money daily, even if he claims to be low on cash.

Despite his discomfort with the situation, the man finds it difficult to confront his mother-in-law directly, as she turns the conversation around by questioning his willingness to take care of his own children. This leaves him feeling drained and financially strained.

His wife’s reluctance to address the issue only adds to his frustration, as he struggles to find a way to politely but firmly ask his mother-in-law to leave.

Living with extended family members can be a delicate balancing act, requiring clear communication and boundaries to be set. In this case, it may be necessary for the man to have an open and honest conversation with his wife and mother-in-law to address the situation and come to a mutually agreeable resolution.

Extended family living arrangements can be a source of support and companionship, but it’s important for all parties involved to respect each other’s boundaries and needs.

Ultimately, finding a solution that works for everyone involved is key to maintaining a harmonious living environment.

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