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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m a 44-year-old widower with four children, the oldest is 14 and the youngest is 6. My wife has been late for over 3 years now and I’ve solely taken care of the children. Although we have a house help, I feel the need to marry now.
It hasn’t been easy, and I do find myself dating women but mostly just for sex, I’ve not been able to fall in love for a long time.
I met this young lady recently; she is just 20, young and she knows how old I am. She is not like those girls who are in for money or anything.
She’s very calm, submissive, family conscious and knows her way around a home, I mean she can handle a home very well.
I don’t want to just sleep with her. In fact, I’ve proposed to her and she has accepted, knowing I have four kids. I’ve not slept with her yet, it’s been 6 months of dating. I don’t want to touch her.
I want to marry her but I’m not sure it’s the right thing to do, considering our age difference so she just comes around, help with the kids and does whatever she wants and goes back. I take care of her though.
I give her money every week and I get her anything I think she needs because she doesn’t ask.
We talk like lovers and all that, but I feel like touching her would mean I’m taking advantage of her. I feel she’s too young, but I really do love her.
She reminds me of my wife, and I just wish I am married to her already. I’m confused so I’ve decided to bring it here for help.
Should I go ahead and marry her? She said she has told her parents about me, and they don’t mind.
She sounds like she really wants this but, I also feel it’s because she is naive as she has not finished with school yet.
What if she is just smitten by my house, car or comfort? What if she loves me because she hasn’t loved a younger man yet?
I know she is not a gold digger, but she’s young and innocent, or maybe naïve. One day she may not want this. Am I overthinking it? What should I do now?
FG/EB
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