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Woman Seeks Legal Help Amid Threats Over Relationship with Best Man
Dear GhanaWeb,
I never imagined I would be in this position. I’m in love with the man who stood as best man at my wedding three years ago, and we are getting married next month.
The story is complicated. We actually knew each other before I ever met my ex-husband, but we never had any personal interaction back then.
When my ex moved into my neighbourhood, he and this man, who is now my fiancé, became close friends and eventual neighbours. Oddly, despite their new friendship, I never sensed any tension or jealousy from him while I was dating my ex.
Then came the wedding. During his best man speech, he said something I’ve never forgotten. In front of the whole crowd, he said:
“I know my friend here isn’t making a mistake by marrying this lady. I’ve known her even before he did, and she is just an inch away from perfection. I’ve been in love with her for a long time but couldn’t approach her till my friend did. I feel sorry, but I’m happy for them and I believe she’ll make a great wife.”
That moment stuck with me. His honesty, confidence, and tone were striking. Some time after the wedding, I asked him, casually and in private, if he really meant those words. His answer was a simple “Yeah.” But he added that he would never do anything to betray his friend, and said he now saw me as a sister.
Unfortunately, a year into my marriage, things took a dark turn. My husband became emotionally and physically abusive, and a chronic cheat. The only person who offered me consistent comfort and companionship was his best friend. Over time, my feelings for him deepened.
Eventually, I filed for divorce, and surprisingly, my ex didn’t fight it. We had no children, he blames me for that, although I’m not sure why. Not long after the proceedings started, another woman moved in with him, and she’s now pregnant.
Months later, after offering me constant support and care, his friend, the same man who once loved me from afar, proposed. I said . We’re set to marry next month.
But ever since he handed my ex an invitation to our wedding, our lives have been under threat.
My fiancé was attacked and beaten severely last week. Then just last night, someone broke into our home. Our security man was stabbed in the process. Thankfully, police patrols responded quickly, but the attacker escaped. The guard is still hospitalized.
We reported the incident to the police, but my ex has now turned around and is suing us. We are terrified. We feel watched, threatened, and completely unsafe, all while he lives openly with another woman who is carrying his child.
What can we do? We’ve considered postponing the wedding, but we don’t want to give him that power. I believe he is just bitter that I’m marrying his friend.
We need help, specifically legal help. Can anyone recommend a good lawyer or suggest what steps we can take to ensure our safety and peace?
Please help us. We just want to move on and live our lives.
FG/EB
